Respect

A lot of guys never bow in and out of class. They walk in late, mouth off, their manners are poor, their moral ethics are poor, their discipline is piss poor. The respect part, (Wai, Shaking Hands, High Five, Telling Your Name), is important. You guys are sweating together. I want to know who I’m sweating with!

The respect factor is whe Wai and the bowing. The bowing is more traditional Japanese, but I try to keep that for all my guys so they at least have the respect factor. We don’t have belts, we wear shorts & sweats, we play loud music and train hard, but we must keep the respect and pass it on to the new generation.

I used to be the new generation, but now I’m old. It’s weird. When I go to Japan, the place where all of the respect is, you walk in the door, stop and bow. Now some walk in and wave their hand and keep talking. For some, the respect factor has really changed.

I see a lot of this in mixed martial arts because they see Tito Ortiz and some other guys with the Bad Boy image. If you really get to know Tito, he’s not really like that. He’s a little cocky, but it’s for the hype of the media, and that’s what they need. Phil Baroni is the same way. He’s kind of crazy, lol, but, once you sit down and talk to him, he’s not really that way. People see the image on TV and love pro wrestling and that kind of attitude, so it tends to come out and the young people see this and that’s how they act. That’s not what it’s about.

It’s about respect, and it’s very important!

6 thoughts on “Respect”

  1. Great, we have been dabbling with intoducing bowing. We started with just paying respects to your partners but things still didn’t flow well. We have in the last week or so started with beginning of session and end of session. It has been working real well. And it does stop the chaos I have found.

  2. I have really stressed the respect thing since I began teaching my 12-18 year old class. We do the same thing in the adult class. Sensei Erik brings up a good point about introducing yourself if you don’t know your partner. Martial Arts can create really strong friendships and you don’t know if the next person you train with might turn out to be a very good friend and training partner.

  3. Respect and Humility. Two things that get over looked all too often. There is a level of respect at our gym but it is more based on ability. A quasi-pecking order if you will. I’m the oldest guy there and get a certain amount of respect for my knowledge and experiance, but mostly because I can still hang with the young guys. (Except for a couple of the pro fighters). Its not a set rule but most of us slap up before we roll. If a new guy comes in we make a point exchange names before we roll. But I see a lot off the younger and inexperianced guys sometimes not even speaking to each other as we rotate out partners. I don’t think its so much a lack of respect as it is that they are nervous and forgert. I see more disregard for equipment than I do people. Coming from a very disciplined wrestling and Judo background, one my pet peaves is disregard for the mats and equipment. Ticks me off to see gloves and pads laying around the gym and dirt and hair on the mat.

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